Which Words Impact Children's Self-Esteem

Published: 15th October 2009
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Words hold power. They have the power to lift up as well as the power to break down others around us. Because of the intrinsic power of what we say, it is important as parents to intentionally and routinely speak positive words to children. Words convey more than the literal meaning - they express the love, care and concern we have for each unique child.

Positive words can also build self confidence in children. If a child finishes a project or does well on a school assignment, positive feedback from each parent will give the child the confidence he or she needs to take on the next project or assignment with the same enthusiasm and work ethic. Children are learning and exploring each and every day, and they often look for feedback from those around them. It may be tempting to assume that your children know that you are proud of them or know that you love them, but what kids need most is the everyday, direct, positive feedback that will give them the confidence to overcome any challenge that they may face.

By consistently offering positive and encouraging words to your children, you, as a parent, encourage them to follow the right path. Kids are looking for direction and guidance from their role models, and parents have the responsibility to positively reinforce their achievements and successes, while also steering them away from negative influences and temptations. Consistently engaging in positive, meaningful conversations with each of your children will show them that they are a valued, unique individual with self-worth. Kids develop their sense of self-confidence as they experience the world, and you can help them develop self-worth by verbally praising and encouraging them through all they do.

Speaking intentional, positive words to your children does not mean praising every single action or every single deed. It means encouraging them in the best way possible to build their self worth, build their self confidence and show them that they are unique and valued. If parents positively respond to their children, both verbally and non-verbally, children will know that they are worthy of respect, and they will in turn respect others because of it.

Most importantly, positive and reaffirming words show kids that you, as their parent, love them unconditionally. Children might not fully grasp the magnitude of unconditional love, but you will slowly show them what this means by intentionally uplifting them with your words and actions. Psychologists have proven that negative interactions have a far greater impact on our emotional well-being than positive interactions, meaning that positive words and encouragement are routinely needed to balance out any negative feedback that children are receiving.

Words are a part of our everyday life in our conversations and thoughts, but we rarely pause to consider how powerful these words are and how they affect those around us. Parents can intentionally use positive words in their daily interactions to build their children's self worth and self confidence, while showing them the beauty of unconditional love.

Mark Arens, owner of ThumbPeople, Inc. & author of Thumbuddy Books & products, shares his heart on the importance of spending time together as a family. ThumbPeople provides traditional children's products and books that help build and fortify strong relationships within the family. Building self worth and self respect within our children is vital. Visit ThumbPeople for more -->> http://www.thumbuddyspecial.com

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